The Truth Hurts

In Life, It’s All About Working Things Out

Few of us embrace simplicity and common sense as adults, mostly because it’s been beaten out of us. Poor leadership. Poor self-image. Doubt. Fear. Long list, right?

The aspects of those things most important are hidden because of their simplicity and familiarity.

When do these things resurface in our lives, giving us a second chance to consider making them important again? Last night driving home from dropping off our son’s sleepover buddy, my son and I had a conversation and the most basic and important phrase came out of my mouth.


In life, it’s all about working things out.

Immediately, two leaders came to mind. Misunderstanding, driven by lack of communication, assumptions, busy schedules, excuses, etc, can skew the truth so badly, that great opportunities are buried, when they could very well be the next big breakthrough.

There, that’s the main message. If you want to read more, this whole thing started when I reflected on how well Chapin and his friend (both 10) played together. “You guys got along great. Only one or two challenges, but you worked it out.”

“You know, like they say on American Idol. Dude, you worked it out.”

My son was still confused at the metaphor. Told him on American Idol, working it out means singing an amazing song. But in this context, working it out meant you and another person solved a difference of opinion.

That’s what life is all about, I piped, without even thinking twice. And it hit me three seconds later, so I pulled over and wrote it down.

Profoundly simple. Simply profound.

Life is like that.

Glad I worked it out between me and my intuition.

A boy and his future ‘brother’, the canine inspiration for this blog…

Amazingly Inspirational

Would You Have Gotten Back Up?

Heather Dorniden of the University of Minnesota races the 600m at the Big 10 Indoor Track (2008) Championships. In lap 2, Heather took a bad fall.

Would you have gotten back up from this heartbreaking fall?

The Truth Hurts

Kill Shelters Are Needed

Wonder if the abandoned puppies ever see it coming?

Leadership is serious business some of the time, fun some of the time and some of the time, it’s sad. It’s the same with Pets. Hear me out.

We just finished watching The Switch, in which the final scene has Sebastian, the 7-year old boy, stubbornly refusing to blow out the candles until someone at his party volunteers to adopt Doug from the Kill Shelter. Today is Doug’s last day if no one saves him.

Trouble is, no one wants Doug. He’s old. He only has three legs.

Switch back to my living room, our Son (10) asks me what a Kill Shelter is.

People get Pets, cute, cuddly, adorable puppies, thinking the training is within their abilities. Truth is, training a puppy is like leadership. Hard. Difficult. Tiring. Frustrating.

So, unlike leadership, people reach a breaking point and take their unruly Dog to the Pound, the Animal Shelter. If no one adopts them quickly, the are killed, humanly. But killed nonetheless.

They have to be, there’s a steady stream – more abandoned and unwanted pets. There’s simply no room unless room is made.

I told our son that Puppies don’t listen, they chew, destroy, bark, urinate, poop, run away – making a long list of reasons to dump them.

And then I told him I make it look easy. The reason Cooper listens like he does is simply this: Leadership is like training a puppy. Training, development, recognition, involvement, patience, vision. Hard. Difficult. Tiring. Frustrating.

But in the end, a labor of love. A calling. A privilege.

If your career plan involves becoming a leader, with an official title, paycheck and expectations, are you sure you can handle it?